Once you accept the situation you are faced with, bless it. Yes, bless your mess. Give thanks for the opportunity to learn and grow, to create a better life or relationship or career. I know that is not easy. If you find it too difficult at first to have gratitude for whatever is causing you pain, then start with the small stuff. Each morning, in a journal, list 5 things you are grateful for. Anything! When I wake up, I am grateful for another day on this planet to love my family. I am grateful for my cozy bed and warm blankets. After spending months in a wheelchair, I am grateful to be able to walk to the bathroom. Remembering my time in rural areas of Africa, I am so grateful for indoor plumbing! You can think of 5 things. To begin your day in gratitude is a powerful way to begin healing.